The List

Just came across this list I made two or three years ago. Not really rules, more like guidelines or something. Some might mean something to you, others won’t. I’m not going to explain any of it. Take from it what you will.

  1. All lives intersect
  2. Anybody is capable of doing anything to anyone
  3. Prepare for Wednesdays
  4. Whatever you’ve got to do, do it now
  5. Tomorrow isn’t promised
  6. Yesterday can be lost, wasted, and stolen
  7. Just because you saw the beginning, doesn’t mean you’ll catch the end
  8. If you wake up with the memory of a Dream, write it down
  9. If you wake up with a song in your head, it’s trying to tell you something
  10. Create as many new experiences as possible
  11. Touch the world around you
  12. Don’t fall asleep in front of the television
  13. If you’ve got somewhere to be, don’t turn on the computer
  14. Eat better
  15. Exercise more
  16. When loved ones tell you the truth, don’t be angry
  17. Don’t spend too long in front of the mirror
  18. Don’t be lazy
  19. If you release your intent, it will come back to you

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Why has the Flittr been so flat?

location_based_message_bulletin_board_dropaloI started Flittr because I thought, “A blog that only contains short  posts — perfect! I must be able to find time to blog regularly for that!”

As it turns out, full-time work, family life, and a side-project with the aim of changing the world doesn’t make for much spare time at all. This year I’ve slept less, stressed more, and worked harder than any other time in my life. The reason?

Dropalo (as in, ‘Drop a local message’).

A location based service that lets you drop messages, anywhere you happen to be (so long as you have a data/internet connection). Messages are public by default and can be seen by anyone that passes through the ‘drop zone’ .

And I’m at the point where I need help from the public (yes, you). You’ve got nothing to lose: it’s free.

I’ll post a follow up later to say a little more about it. For now, go ahead and request an invite  🙂

Aside

The greatest threat to my own success?

Boredom

My brother says it’s not that I get bored easily, it’s that I spend too much time doing stuff that bores me. I’d argue that it’s a combination of both.

I’m the type of person that needs lots of variety. I like chocolate cookies, but I don’t want to eat (or bake) them every day of the week. I’ll have some Monday this week, and Thursday next. Maybe. Who knows? I’ll see how I feel. Know what I mean?

Variety

I wanna mix it up, sit in the office today and do some creative techy stuff; tomorrow and the next day travel around taking random pictures: people, cars, the sky, whatever. The day after that be home doing some other creative shit: music, writing, photo-editing, creating a video, baking. Create,  createcreate.

Say whaaat? He created an app that bakes you sweet treats then sends a slideshow of images of your bake to your peeps? Whaaa..? Complete with a dynamically rendered backing track based on the images the app took? No waaayy…

If only.

But incredible things can happen when given the freedom to fight boredom in your own way, in your own style, in your own space, in your own time. This is the life I want to live. And still be able to pay the bills.

I’ll leave you with some quotes.

 

“I’ve got a great ambition to die of exhaustion rather than boredom.”

— Thomas Carlyle

 

“The two enemies of human happiness are pain and boredom.”

— Arthur Schopenhauer

 

“Boredom is the root of all evil – the despairing refusal to be oneself.”

— Soren Kierkegaard

 

“Is life not a thousand times too short for us to bore ourselves?”

― Friedrich Nietzsche

Aside

Apology not accepted

I guess I see things a little differently. When it comes to apologies, they mean nothing to me. I never expect anyone to apologise to me and always wonder why when people do. Saying “sorry” doesn’t change a thing. If someone is sorry, I prefer them to show it with their actions going forward. You’re sorry? Great, don’t tell me; show me. If it’s something trivial, like you step on my foot, and I think it’s an accident, I might briefly be annoyed, but I’ll get over it quickly. I’ll be moving on before the ‘s’ has finished sounding. And if I think you did it on purpose, well then I’ll be in your face and we’ll have a problem. Either way, sorry doesn’t come into it.

EDIT: And yet I still find myself apologising to people. Especially strangers. Maybe it’s a British thing, too damned polite.
 

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Daily prompt: no apologies — being alone

What’s the one guilty pleasure you have that’s so good, you no longer feel guilty about it?

Being alone.

I used to feel bad about wanting alone-time. It seemed selfish when others wanted to spend time with me but I wanted to be by myself.

The reality is I function better when I have plenty of uninterrupted time alone. It gives me time to think, process things,  and replenish my energy. I don’t have to filter anything that I’m saying or doing, so it’s not tiring. I’m unrestricted. I can never be completely unrestricted around others, so it will always be a bit more work than being alone.

Typecast

Typecast as 'Joey' from 'Friends' — Photo by Richard Goldschmidt

Typecast as ‘Joey’ from ‘Friends’ — Photo by Richard Goldschmidt

I saw Matt LeBlanc in ES Magazine (tl;dr) and realised I haven’t seen him in anything good since Friends. I thought his spin off, Joey, was average at best. Besides the point. I guess Friends was a gift and a curse because, to many people, he’ll always be Joey. He’s been typecast by that role. But then it dawned on me: I’ve been typecast! Although, admittedly I probably brought it on myself. And don’t we all?

Unless you’ve got multiple personalities or some other mental disorder, you’re probably relatively stable. People you know will inevitably develop a certain image of you; you’ll be associated with certain traits, behaviour and types of activities. And that’s not so bad, right? But we’re more than what others see. What happens when more is revealed? Shock? Awe? Horror? Vehement opposition? How do we escape the trap of being typecast in life? Regular acts of randomness and spontaneity perhaps…
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Daily Prompt — Witness Protection

When you do something scary or stressful — bungee jumping, public speaking, etc. — do you prefer to be surrounded by friends or by strangers? Why?

When I was young I was always more likely to go through with something scary if there were people I knew around me, because I always had so much to prove to others.

Later, I preferred to be alone because then nobody could see me fail. Invisibility was my friend; hide in the corners, linger at the back, lurk in the shadows. Let no one notice, and avoid all ridicule.

Now, I don’t care who’s there. Fail or succeed. Alone or with company. Friend or stranger. Because these days I don’t choose to do anything I don’t really want to do, and if I really want to do it, then it’s happening. Regardless of the audience.